Using Positivity to Eliminate Negative Words & Thoughts
In short, this was a process where I physically wrote down on a piece of paper things I could better and change about myself, and things that would probably always stay the same (for the most part), that I’d have to “Make Peace” with… such as height, body type, certain character/personality traits I have, etc… It was sort of like finding myself again after all the years of having babies, changing jobs and discovering my new passions in life. It was a way for me to reconnect with who I really was, and who I really wanted to be. In whole, it took me to an insecure place at first, but then wound up being the BEST medicine, because it made me feel so much more confident in me and the goals I was trying to reach in the long run.
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Jen and her men says
I know we are all so much more than a number on the scale but I do want to say way to go! You are such a wonderful example of hard work and perseverance and you look AMAZING!! I love your comments about making peace with the things we can't change. It goes beyond even ourselves. I think acceptance of the things we can't change is part of choosing to be happy. You have such an awesome perspective and attitude about life and it's contagious! That's why we all want to be real life friends with the the fabulous Shelley Smith!!
Loretta says
You look awesome and has really come a long way. Thanks for the encouragement to stop the Fat Talk, I'm really hard on myself, however I need to speak positive thoughts for excellent results.
- Brittany aka Pretty Handy Girl says
Oh you are so right about the fat talk being our biggest obstacle. Loving yourself for who you are and allowing yourself to have set backs is much healthier than beating ourselves up!
Allisha says
Thank you for this post!! I have lost around 80 pounds in the past year and it still amazes me that I am 10 sizes smaller and am that much thinner but still have "fat days" and find things about myself to criticize. It's so hard! My goal is to be more positive about my body–especially when looking in the mirror! Thank you. ๐
Julia Leenig says
This was so great to read today. We are expecting our first in only a few short weeks and I am trying to balance all the body image issues that come with this magical process. It's hard to juggle the balance between wanting take care of yourself and not giving yourself too hard of a time. I find myself feeling so unbelievably fat, making plans and dreaming of getting back in shape. Then, I remember that I am 8 months pregnant and relatively healthy, so looking "fat" is just a part of it.
Thanks for bringing me down to earth.
Julia
from Baker-Builder
kansasgirl1 says
Thank you. I don't "talk" fat talk every day, but I sure am "thinking" fat talk every day. Maybe this is the time when I can really do something about it. One step at a time, right?
Unknown says
You look awesome! I follow your blog regularly and I'm so happy for you. I too am a mother of twin girls that are 14 now. I have continued to gain weight since their birth and I've also tried to be very aware of what I say around them. My inner voice has so many hopes and dreams for my skinny self to come out but it just "ain't" happening for me. I'm waiting for the moment! I'm happy you have achieved this HUGE accomplishment. Congratulations!
Unknown says
Congratulations! You're sending a great message! I too am a mother of twins daughters. They are 14 now. I have not taken care of myself during those 14 yrs. and boy does it show. I keep waiting for that inner voice to wake up the skinny person inside myself. How, where did you get your motivation? I'm a RN. I know what to do but having trouble getting started. P.S. Love your blog!
awholelotofschmidt says
A-men. I have to give you a big virtual {hug} for speaking up about this subject. I am going through my own personal journey of creating value in my life and it is hard!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you Shelley!