7.16.2015

All of the Things and None of the Things + An Office Peek

I found an article the other day on Momastery and it really struck a cord with me. I quickly highlighted and copied parts of it into my notebook on my phone, so I could send it to Cason later.
Within minutes I was crying and laughing all at once, and I knew I had to share it with you too, because as women, I think we all feel these things from time to time.

Excerpt from Glennon @ Mommastery:
Explaining to your Husband how your day was.

"It was the best of times and the worst of times. There were moments when my heart was so full I thought I might explode, and there were other moments when my senses were under such intense assault that I was CERTAIN I’d explode.

I was both lonely and absolutely desperate to be alone. 

I was saturated—just BOMBARDED with touch and then the second I put down the baby, I yearned to smell her sweet skin again.

I was simultaneously bored out of my skull and completely overwhelmed with so much to do.

Today was too much and not enough. It was loud and silent. It was brutal and beautiful. I was at my very best today and then, just a moment later, at my very worst.

Husband—when your day is completely and totally dependent upon the moods and needs and schedules of tiny, messy, beautiful kids, your day is ALL OF THE THINGS and NONE OF THE THINGS, sometimes within the same three minute period.

But I’m not complaining.

This is not a complaint, so don’t try to FIX IT.
I wouldn’t have my day Any.Other.Way. I’m just saying—it’s a really hard thing to explain—an entire day with lots of babies/kids.

But I'm too tired to say all of that. So I just cry, or yell, or smile and say “fine,” and then hand the kids over to you, and run to Target to wander aisles aimlessly, because that’s all I ever really wanted.

But I’d be a little sad because love is about really being seen and known and I wasn’t being seen or known then. Everything is really hard to explain. It makes me feel lonely."

Summer is really kickin' my booty you guys. I feel like by the time Cason gets home at the end of the day, I'm a hot freakin' mess.
Sure, working outside the home was stressful, hard, time consuming and I wouldn't go back unless I really had to... but this SAHM stuff is even MORE emotionally and mentally exhausting then I remember.

The amount of fighting, whining, crying, teasing, complaining, yelling, silly forced giggling (yes, that can actually get annoying too), pushes me over the edge on certain days!

I know, I know... I should really cherish these moments (and I DO!)... some more than others.

And no, of course I didn't yell and threaten no more swimming for the entire Summer to two 9 year olds and a 7 year old, if they didn't close their eyes and lay still for an hour........ I'm a "nice" Mom.
(insert sarcasm here)

I know they grow up too fast, believe me, I'm not wishing them "away" one tiny little bit... but can I just get an "AMEN" to the Everest sized mountain of patience and understanding that goes into dealing with kids at home ALL day?

MAJOR respect for all of the working and SAHM's.
You guys are so amazing. 
So many of you are making it look so easy. 

You go ahead and lose your cool in the middle of Walmart/Target/the Mall parking lot with your 6 year old - because guess what? WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE. 

This parenting stuff takes a major toll on us Women, and even though we KNOW we're amazing, it's hard to really explain how we're feeling at the end of the day to our husbands or significant other; in the hopes of trying to fill up our sometimes empty cup, just to turn around and do it all over again tomorrow.

It's All of the Things and None of the Things. 

Being present, loving and caring for my kiddos is EVERYTHING that's important... but it sometimes feel's like nothing got accomplished at the same time.

I wonder if that's just me, and my unrealistic expectations for the day... or if other Momma's feel that way too (?) 

I've wanted so badly to work on my house this Summer, write up a billion posts and spend lots of money I don't have on lots of furniture that I really want (muah ah ah!)... but that just ain't happenin'.
And while sometimes I'm disappointed at all that could/should of gotten done during a regular 12 hour day, and what actually DID happen... I know that it will all even out in the end. 

Soooo... the offie is coming along. LOL.

I'm in LOVE with the pink rug we purchased from Rugs USA, and have been slowly organizing things into their proper place, so that I can finally clear out our basement storage room. AKA: The spot where all of our crap got thrown in the frantic move and scramble to finish the basement. 

Next blog post... entry and hallway molding update - whoohoo! I'm SO EXCITED for this!

20 comments:

  1. Glennon Melton Doyle writer of Momastary wrote that -- amazing post and one of many!

    http://momastery.com/blog/2014/01/16/save-relationships-ask-right-questions/#comments

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  2. That's such a good explanation of what it's like staying home with my twin girls this summer!!

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  3. Was this the article?

    http://momastery.com/blog/2014/01/16/save-relationships-ask-right-questions/

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  4. Yes, yes, YES to all of the above!! Both your words and the author's words are so right on! I'm bored at the moment, but have so much to do!! ahhh!!!! Seriously, I was nodding my head to all of it. And now I should really get off the computer and do something, but I just don't wanna!!!

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  5. Was it this?

    http://momastery.com/blog/2014/01/16/save-relationships-ask-right-questions/

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  6. Amen, sister!!!! I always have such ambitious plans for house projects during the summer and somehow always forget to factor in the part where I'm going to have all three kids home all day. LOL. There's always tomorrow.......

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  7. I think that's from Glennon Doyle Melton's Momastery blog. She's a pretty cool chick. She has a book called Carry On Warrior that is amazing.

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  8. I hear you Shelly! I work at home and during summer that is twice as hard with my two boys at home all day long. I love them and I want them home, but boy 😉 is it a challange!

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  9. I think being a mom/ raising a family is hard no matter what. I always thought if I didn't have to work life would be easier. Last year I spent 4 months unemployed...and even then all of my grand plans for the day never were accomplished. And I have worked part time for the past year and while I love being able to set my schedule and the flexibility of it things really still are just as hard as they were when I was working full time.... I still have that running list of stuff I need to take care of running through my brain and there are still not enough hours in the day to do it all.

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  10. I love this! We don't even had kids yet and I have already seen how sometimes my projects and big plans fall to the wayside when people and other things come up. And I'm learning that's okay! I hope you enjoy time with your girls (and maybe the occasional solo trip to Target!)

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  11. Yes! I think we all have days where we feel like this. Excited to see your office and entry way progress! But no pressure.:)

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  12. Do you know the manufacture for the armless settee wheelable you posted previously on your blog?

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  13. Heck, I don't have kids and I STILL can't find time to get my summer projects done. Between working full time and trying to keep the yard maintained and laundry done, I'm pooped at the end of the day. So kudos to you for all you have accomplished this summer, even if to you it doesn't seem like much. There are just not enough hours in the day to do all that hearts desire.

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  14. I was actually talking to my 8 year old about me not doing any house projects over the summer while my two kiddos are home. I just decided that it would leave all of us frustrated. When I told her it was because I wanted to make sure I was able to spend as much time with them as possible, her grin practically split her face. They notice our distractions. Now, mind you, I also recorded an epic screaming match between them today (they were seriously fighting over rocks- not even awesome rocks- plain grey rocks. Say what now?) for funnsies and posterity. Best mommy moment? Maybe not. I may have also told them if they are going to act so crazy, I was going to film it. Ups and downs. Ups and downs. 😉

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  15. I enjoyed your post and your sincerity. You are not the only one who feels this way, for sure! You are doing great work (both with your home AND your littles!) Just a few more weeks of summer to go.... ;)

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  16. I agree with your everything and nothing comment. It is not always easy but I also do not wish these young years away.

    Your entryway is looking very cool!

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  17. that molding is everything. good job!

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  18. Holy crap! Did I just write this? Are you spying on my brain? This is EXACTLY how I feel. I don't even know how to explain it but it is SO comforting to know that I'm not the only one who feels like this. Hope you're doing great and wish we lived closer so we could get together!! Seeing you like once a year is pretty lame! ;) Thanks for being awesome! Big fat hugs! xo, Mallory (& Savannah too!)

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  19. What? I remember one of your blog posts saying that you don't like Macs! What's that I see? Two of them?! What convinced you to switch to "the other side"? :)

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